Five shades of Taboo
Okay girls, here we go – time to discuss some 'taboo' Female topics...
1. Is my Libido too high?
If you want to have sex every minute of the day, you may worry that you’re abnormal. Although it’s a topic that may get a lot of laughs, in the medical community it’s the subject of hot debate. We’ve heard the term nymphomania, and the World Health Organization lists a condition known as “excessive masturbation”. There may be certain disorders such as bipolar disorder that may result in hypersexuality, or even as a result of post traumatic stress disorder. The bottom line (no pun intended) is that as long as your sexual appetite is not detrimental to your daily life or to others, take advantage of your sexual confidence with a smile. If it is an issue of concern for you, speak to your doctor or someone you trust.
You may wonder from time to time if your sexual drive is normal. If you suddenly experience a loss in sex drive, or feel less in the mood, it may be for a number of reasons. Are you having stress at work? Are you experiencing relationship troubles? You may be feeling less desirable or be taking a medication that affects sex drive (especially antidepressants). The key is not to feel that you are somehow defective. There are passion boosting herbs that can help too, to get the juices flowing. Fluctuating hormonal levels can reduce your libido significantly, and result from pregnancy, breastfeeding, menopause or pre-menopause phase. If you experience low sex drive along with one or more of the points mentioned above, you may want to chat with your doctor, to look at the whole picture, as many of these topics are inter-related.
3. Why do I have difficulty becoming or staying aroused or reaching orgasm?
As we age, our labia (the folds of skin surrounding the clitoris) may become thinner and expose the clitoris. This then means that the increased exposure to this sensitive area may in fact lead to it becoming less sensitive to stimulation over time. The stress of daily life and family, religious or social factors can play a big role too (it’s hard to feel sexually aware when you’re overwhelmed with a troubling issue!) Women on anti-depressant medications may also struggle to reach orgasm (which is why natural antidepressants are best!). Some of us may find we are fully able to become aroused mechanically, but struggle to reach climax. This may also be due to mental stress or other issues. Many women may find they are able to become orgasmic through oral or manual stimulation of the clitoris. There is no wrong or right method, whatever works for you is best!
4. Why does my vagina become dry?
The vagina may become less lubricated due to hormonal factors. Likewise, if the vagina is not able to become lubricated it may lead to uncomfortable pain during stimulation. In addition, some women find that if they have not been sexually active for a long period of time, sexual stimulation may be sore or the vagina may take longer to become lubricated. There are wonderful creams and gels that can naturally help to lubricate the vagina naturally to help make sex more enjoyable.
5. Why do I feel pain or discomfort during sex?
Hormonal changes can cause the tissue lining the vagina to thin and become less elastic. This can then lead to the clitoris being more exposed, which can cause the sensation of prickling or painful tingling. Pain during penetration may also occur. This can be attributed to many factors including: vaginal spasm (ironically often occurring due to fear of being hurt), endometriosis, inflammatory pelvic disease, ectopic pregnancy, vaginal infections and ovarian problems. For this reason, we would advise an appointment with your doctor if you find you are experiencing pain during sex.
REMEMBER: A number of factors influence our sexual desire and truly, there is no magic number as to how many times we should be having sex. Communication between partners is key – talking, remaining compassionate and open with each other. A truly loving partner will understand any issues that may crop up, and be more than willing to work through them.